Negative Self Talk - Choose
To be Positive from
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Negative self-talk is a destructive habit
and part of an essential defence mechanism that we often develop to protect
ourselves. Many people end up talking themselves out of actions that may be
scary or uncomfortable. 'I can't do
this' is really just a way of
saying "I don't want to deal with the experience of doing this." We are all
strongly influenced by our feelings, often determining how and what action we
ultimately take. If the feeling is uncomfortable, negative self-talk results;
then we often decide not to take any action at all.
Many people assume that if a
past experience produced a certain result, there is nothing they can do to
change that experience in order to produce a different result. 'I've tried every diet there is. I know what I should do; I
just can't do it.'
Please understand that you can make the
choice not to repeat old patterns of eating, non-exercise, and negative
thinking. You have the ability to choose the emotions you have. If you don't
like feeling guilty, frustrated, or doubtful, you can choose not to. You, and
no one else, must decide what is comfortable for you. In order to become successful at making healthy choices, you
must avoid negative self-talk and start practicing positive
Positive or negative self-talk plays a big
part in your decisions. Be on the look-out for negative self-talk and notice
how it influences your choices; notice how it can negatively affect your
efforts to change. For example, perhaps you've just returned from a week's
vacation where you took a break from exercise and low-fat eating. You tell
yourself, 'I feel so fat.
I'm back where I started.' You feel
guilty and frustrated. 'I don't have enough will-power to start all over again.
Maybe I'm just meant to be overweight.' Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged,
you give up.
First, reflect on the feelings you had
before you decided to give up. You basically told yourself that the healthy
habits you learned before your vacation were all for nothing and that you have
to start over. Ask yourself if these feelings are reasonable.
Are you really back to ground zero? Of course not. You
accepted change and developed a new way of living; these skills are yours
forever. The vacation might even have done you some good: everyone
needs a break sometimes. Otherwise, you might have felt deprived and not really
enjoyed yourself. It's time now to tell yourself: 'It
felt good eating whatever I wanted and taking a break from exercising; I had a
great time. But now I'm going to focus back on the low-fat, active lifestyle I
was enjoying before vacation. There is no reason to beat myself up;
I'll just take it one day at a time.' Now you can rethink your previous
decision and take action that will move you forward towards more positive
As you begin to understand your reasons for
negative self-talk, you'll find yourself recognizing it more and more quickly
after it occurs. Eventually, as you practice, you'll be able to recognize and
stop negative self-talk before it interferes with your decisions.
It is very important to practise positive
thinking and to remind yourself that you're a worthwhile person whatever you
do. Try to consistently acknowledge that you are making positive changes to
improve your health. You should be proud of yourself.
Visualize yourself as capable, happy, and confident. These positive
feelings will help the process of change.
Remember, there are bound to be times when
you're feeling frustrated or depressed. Positive thinkers know that these
feelings are valid, and they don't try to ignore them. Positive thinkers
acknowledge and try to understand them, but they don't blame themselves for the
conditions that lead to these feelings. Good luck,
stay positive, and enjoy all the wonderful benefits of a healthy
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