The 5-Letter Word That Dooms
A DietBy Dr. Susan Mendelsohn eDiets
Ill NEVER lose weight!
NEVER be able to wear my bathing suit!
Ill NEVER achieve my
Ill NEVER be happy!
Do you find your mind frequently drifting
into the NEVER mode? If so, you will NEVER succeed, and thats a
Throughout the course of my own personal
life and professional career, I have gained a strong belief that the absolute
NEVER will ALWAYS result in failure. Unless you TAKE the TIME to MAKE a CHANGE,
youll be stuck in a rut FOREVER!
Since your attitude is the way you view your
life -- your past, present and future -- and your behaviors are so intimately
intertwined with your thoughts, its time to take control of what you CAN
Our attitudes begin as harmless little
thoughts that become layered by practice (habit) into unbreakable chains that
either serve to hinder our existence or enhance it!
Many of us are unaware that our cynical
thoughts exist because they have become so much a part of our being from early
on! We have actually molded our attitudes into what they are today.
Interestingly, our attitudes then become a driving force behind who we will
Just because we may replay that broken
record from childhood of how you dont measure up or
cant you be like your sister? or you are so pretty, too
bad you cant lose a little weight doesnt entitle us to give
up on ourselves as adults. Weve all heard the negative, but its
time to weigh in on the positive.
As adults we can take control of those
absolutist outlooks and turn our lives around 180 degrees... if that's what we
choose. NEVER should be erased from that record and replaced with
There is one major difference between those
who succeed in life and those who do not -- ATTITUDE! Do you find yourself
relinquishing your power in the face of challenges or do you persist?
We certainly cannot control those
situations that happen around us, nor can we control the thoughts,
feelings and behaviors of others. But we sure as heck can control how we want
to perceive and manage the circumstances in which we find ourselves. Losers let
life happen. Winners make life happen for themselves and for others.
The idea here is that our thoughts make us
who we are today! Your own belief system leads to negative or positive
emotions, unhealthy or healthy behaviors, unsuccessful or successful
relationships, and so on. As a result, our emotions, behaviors and
relationships all contribute to our healthy or unhealthy lifestyles. Get the
point? Changing one piece of the puzzle of life will ultimately result in
overall healthier living!
NEVER, in my opinion, is worse than
any four-letter word. It does not allow you to attempt to make a difference. If
you wont make a difference, youll end up in the same boat you are in today.
Now, why not get off the boat, take a plunge, and explore your potentials? Wait
until you see whats awaiting you.
Attitude -- this precious, personal
possession that we all have -- is something that must be nurtured just like a
flower. When cared for, our attitude will blossom into a future of delight,
making the old impossible become absolutely achievable!
Winning and losing is all about attitude.
Its all about taking time and making a change today!
Dr. Susan Mendelsohn is a licensed
psychologist who works with a variety of addictions and specializes in managing
eating disorders. In addition to teaching and maintaining a private practice,
she counsels eDiets members online. Got a question for the doctor? Feel free to
email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.