7 Keys to Permanent Weight
Loss Success, Part 1 by Jeremy Likness -
Tom Venuto's Fitness
Terrorists are aptly named because their
tactics are designed to strike fear into the hearts of the people. This fear is
often irrational. Many people bide their time suffering anxiety over the next
unlikely attack while falling prey to a monster that kills more people every
week than those murdered on September 11th. This killer has no hidden agenda
and destroys without prejudice. Those who are unfortunate enough to meet this
nemesis often suffer prolonged pain before eventually succumbing and
giving up the breath as death was described in ancient Egypt.
What could possibly be so terrible? In the
year 2000, the leading preventable cause of death was tobacco. Only a few
decades ago, doctors and priests would smoke during commercials and share their
favorite brand of cigarette. Today, there is a stigma associated with smoking
because we understand the link between tobacco and death. Unfortunately, there
is a new competitor who is rapidly gaining ground. This competitor claimed
thousands lives in the year 2000, and was the second leading preventable cause
of death in the United States, according to the Centers for Disease Control
(CDC). Who is this deadly threat to society?
Poor diet and lack of exercise
Surprised? Thousands of people die every day
due to poor eating habits and lack of regular exercise. The death certificate
wont mention their favorite fast food combo meal or the fact that they
would rather watch the latest golf tournament than take a stroll through the
park. Instead, one of the many degenerative diseases that have been
conclusively linked to nutrition and exercise will stake its claim over another
Society spends more time and energy worrying
about violent threats than dealing with this leading cause of death. While the
popularity of products and services designed to address the situation is
growing in fact, the health and wellness industry is en route to become
the next trillion-dollar industry according to economist Paul Zane Pilzer
the rate of obesity, overweight, and conditions related to poor diet and
lack of exercise such as type II adult onset diabetes is
increasing. In fact, adult onset diabetes is now being diagnosed in enough
children that most medical professionals simply refer to it as type
Perhaps one reason why this epidemic is so
hard to combat is that people are focused on the solution as a product or
service, rather than a process. To quit smoking, many people receive
counseling, join groups or follow systems because its not as simple as
tossing the last pack (the author is one of the fortunate few who was able to
stop smoking cold turkey but found it far more difficult to
overcome his poor eating habits). Overweight and obesity is a condition related
to behavior and patterns that have taken years to create, so the notion that
some magic product will suddenly undo the thousands of days of programming is
absurd. Successful, permanent weight loss is a process, not an event.
During a recent seminar that I conduct,
participants explored the concept of just how powerful the mind is and how this
relates to losing fat. After a serious of powerful exercises, they were asked
to create an action plan based on what they learned in order to successfully
lose fat and keep it off. The result of this workshop was seven keys that
addressed what most diet programs or weight loss systems do not: the fact that
fitness starts inside.
Here, then, are seven keys to permanent
weight loss success that start on the inside.
Key #1: Be Positive
Youve probably heard this one before.
Its a popular cliché. In order for it to work, however, you have
to move beyond a catchy statement and integrate this as part of your life. In
order to truly be positive you must start with an understanding of
the mind. Your reality is perception, and perception is influenced by your
thoughts. Thoughts create reality. What you think about expands.
A good friend and client of mine was a pilot
for many years. After the terrorist attacks on September 11th, he was out of
work. He went through a period of extreme grief, pain, and anger. His health
suffered. It wasnt the money that struck such a powerful blow. It was
something else, a mistake many people made.
You see, my friends reality could be
summed up with this statement: I am a pilot.
Can you see the danger in this? He defined
himself by what he did, not who he was. By losing his job, he lost his
identity. In reality, he was there all along, but his ego kept getting in the
way of finding his true self. He had to learn how to let go and be himself, and
define who he was on his own merits, not by his actions, level of success, or
how others perceive him.
Many people who are overweight create the
same situation. Most will create the statement, I am fat. Of
course, the desire to lose weight might exist, but if your definition of
self-worth is based on the amount of fat you carry, what happens when its
gone? If youve lived with I am fat for months or years, who
do you expect to become when the fat is gone? This subconscious fear of losing
your identity can sabotage your process.
What we think about expands. If you focus on
the fat you carrying, or the difficulty you have losing weight, then expect
more of it. Expect more fat, and expect a difficult time losing the fact. On
the other hand, if you focus on releasing the fat, on your success and the
process, then this is what you will receive more of. The fat wont go away
overnight. However, if you spend just one day eating healthy foods and
exercising even if its just taking a short walk would you
consider that to be an improvement? Could you call that a healthy
day compared to your previous habits? What if you decided to be, I
am healthy, and give the fat some time to let go?
Be positive means be realistic, and focus on
the positive progress. Focus on abundance get more of what you wish to
receive, instead of thinking about what you dont want.
Key #2: Forgive yourself
Forgive yourself already! ENOUGH!
You are only human. Whatever decisions,
choices, or even mistakes resulted in your current position, get over them.
Successful people recognize that in life, there are no mistakes or failures.
There are simply undesired outcomes that offer a learning experience. Most
people operate from the realm of what if and live either in the
past or the future. You decide that past failures dooms you to repeat these
mistakes in the future, or you struggle with the concept of what if
and contemplate a future that is pure fiction. It doesnt exist.
Get real. Live in the present. As long as
you continue to dwell on your mistakes, you are simply creating elaborate
excuses to share. You can continue to beat yourself up, or do something about
it. So what if you were a binge eater? So what if you knew you were going to
gain weight, but gave in anyway? Those were all choices that happened in the
past. You are in the drivers seat. You have a brain. You also have the
power to control it. No matter how difficult it may seem, you can choose to be
different. It only takes an instant to change your mindset. Dwelling on the
past is only an excuse to delay the process.
The first step is to forgive yourself.
Remember that forgiveness is not an event. Its a process. It takes time.
Youve spent a long time telling yourself you are bad, lazy, fat, ugly, or
other nasty things that just arent true. You can continue to do the same
thing, or recognize that for things to change, you must change. One easy way to
do this is to simply stand in front of the mirror several times per day, look
yourself in the eye, and say out loud: The more I love the way I am, the
more I am the way I want to be.
Does this feel silly to you? Its not.
That discomfort you have isnt because youre doing something stupid
its because youre not comfortable with you. In fact, the
more excuses you make to not do this exercise, the more reason you should.
Youll find that, over time, you will become more comfortable with who you
are. Soon, youll look forward to greeting yourself. Eventually, you could
even learn to love yourself again.
Key #3: Stop making excuses
If youve already talked yourself out
of the exercise described in Key #2, then you need to read this and go back to
Do you feel that bulge in your pocket? No,
not the one with your wallet or makeup kit tucked away. Im talking about
the one you carry around with you all of the time.
In a nutshell, everyone faces challenges. It
is popular to define ourselves by comparing what we have with someone else, but
in the end, you cant please everyone. Ive heard every excuse in the
Im too old. Ill show
you an 80-year old bodybuilder.
I just got out of heart surgery.
Ill introduce you to a man who lost dozens of pounds after quadruple
bypass surgery and improved his healthy tremendously.
Im too overweight and out of
shape. Listen to my interview with Rob Former Fat Guy Cooper
who lost almost 400 pounds of fat.
Ive had too many children to get
a flat stomach. Ill show you pictures of women with half a dozen
kids who win trophies in figure and bodybuilding competitions.
I work two jobs and go to night
school. Ill share the story of a woman who was working full time,
studying to become a fitness trainer, and teaching her husband how to walk and
talk at the same time (he was recovering from brain surgery) while losing over
The fact is there are always excuses.
Instead of wasting your time and energy finding one that sounds good, why not
just admit youre not up for the challenge? Ultimately, you must make the
decision to change. If youre not ready, then just admit it. Stop feeding
us the sad drama and save it for someone else. Find someone else who wallows in
their excuses and you can have a grand time exchanging all of the reasons why
youre not going to change. The rest of us, weve got a different
plan. You see, we all carry the same victim cards, but were not going to
play them. Instead, were going to stop being a victim and get on with the
business of doing what we set out to do.
Part 2 of Jeremy's 7 Keys to Permanent Weight Loss
Success is found
Author Tom Venuto -
Tom Venuto is a bodybuilder, gym owner, freelance writer, success
coach and author of "Burn the Fat, Feed The Muscle" (BFFM): Fat Burning Secrets
of the World's Best Bodybuilders and Fitness Models. Tom has written over 150
articles and has been featured in IRONMAN magazine, Natural Bodybuilding,
Muscular Development, Muscle-Zine, Exercise for Men and Mens Exercise.
Tom's inspiring and informative articles on bodybuilding, weight loss and
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